You learn very quickly when caring for someone with Alzheimers that a positive distraction is key to changing their behaviour especially when they may be worked up by something. This was certainly true for Nan and defused a lot of tense situations immediately. When looking through old photos yesterday I was reminded of a particularContinue reading “Distracting Nan really helped”
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Grief and its impact on my health
Previously I have blogged about my health having Fibromyalgia, Joint hyper-mobility syndrome and anxiety. I stopped that and recently I have only been talking about Nan and how I am feeling, which undoubtedly this will still be about as it hasn’t even been four weeks yet. Grief has an impact on people physically, it reallyContinue reading “Grief and its impact on my health”
It wasn’t always the plan
When Nan went into hospital in August 2016 and was diagnosed with dementia it was never the plan for me to take on such a massive role in caring for her (along with other members of the family). When she was originally discharged from hospital it was with the intention of having carers from theContinue reading “It wasn’t always the plan”
I really miss you
Before I know it two months will have passed since Nan left me (us all). Those two months have really flown by. In a few weeks she is being put in her final resting place which is with my grampy and I think I might feel at peace a bit when she is with him.Continue reading “I really miss you”
The phone won’t ring now.
For quite a while there had always been that thought in the back of my head when I went to bed that I’d wake up and there would be that phone call… you know the phone call no-one wants to say that Nan had gone. The thoughts became more when Nan came out of hospitalContinue reading “The phone won’t ring now.”
Love you, Love you, Love you
Nan always used to say goodbye to me (and a few others) by saying “Love you, Love you, Love you”. I loved hearing that so much. She said it once whilst she was in hospital in March and this made mum and I so happy. It all started when I used to ring her twiceContinue reading “Love you, Love you, Love you”
1 year ago – 3rd May 2019
For the last year I have referred to the 3rd May as our last normal day, the last day it was mainly me and Nan. The last time before a huge chunk of the responsibility was taken from my shoulders and it makes me sad because it was such a happy moment in which thisContinue reading “1 year ago – 3rd May 2019”
Grief started before the loss
The day Nan died I took down all the photos I have of me and her in my room. I figured I would find photos too painful to look at and it would be best to just take them away so I wasn’t constantly reminded. To start with this really helped but since I firstContinue reading “Grief started before the loss”
Thank you Alzheimer’s Support
Caring for someone with dementia is hands down the most rewarding thing I have ever done. I would put it above getting my degrees when I was told I’d never make it to uni. Its my greatest achievement giving Nan all that time I did and having all the memories in the form of photographsContinue reading “Thank you Alzheimer’s Support”
Sometimes we would sit on the floor.
During the years where Nan had dementia she developed lots of different personality traits. Some made us laugh, some made us cry and some made us go why? One that made me go Why? but I soon learnt to understand and in a way I found it quite cute was her need to sit onContinue reading “Sometimes we would sit on the floor.”
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